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  CHAIN                                               CHAIN    

                Breaking All Chains

        Setting The Captives Free 


                      Husbands and Wives


By Peter James from:   


Links to several related documents, are all at the end of the document.


I have observed marriages for many years,

in fact since I was a young child.

The result of this observation, is that there are very, very few marriages

that are actually happy and contented.


Now, as a senior adult, I can go much further.

I would struggle greatly to count genuinely happy marriages,

on all of my fingers.

This is how bad it is in reality.

The situation gets much worse,

if we consider whether these marriages are operating as God intended.

Unions can superficially appear to be happy, but that is all that they are,

superficially happy.


As I have said before toleration and acceptance of bad situations

is normal. It is not how we appear to others that matters.

How are we going to fool the Eternal God?

Of course it cannot be done.


As Christ is going to marry His geunine church,

this sad situation is not what is required, nor indeed is it acceptable.

There is no room for selfishness, and hypocrisy.

Absolute loyalty, which is very rare indeed, and every honourable

quality are the basic requirements.  


A counselling organisation, in the U.K., said today, May 25th 2016-05-25

that 1.4 million families were ‘at breaking point”,

and that:

“Nearly a fifth of couples are in a 'distressed relationship' at risk of collapse,

a report said yesterday.

Almost three million people have their home lives wrecked by rows,

regrets and threats of break-up, it found.

The paper from the Relate counselling service said too many couples

were suffering the 'social and human cost' of domestic strife.”


Sadly, personally I believe that the reality is much, much worse.

I cannot think of any survey, which I believe.


Here are some related comments which refer to the article:


“Just because you are with someone, doesn’t mean you can’t be lonely!”


“Dumping my control-addict ex was the best thing I ever did.

The world doesn’t fall out of your bottom,

you discover freedom.

You get one life, don’t waste it living under a dictatorship.”


“Just think how many children are living in these situations,

with all the distress it causes them.

Children have divided loyalties and warring parents

cause them endless unhappiness.”

Read more: Daily Mail Three million people having home lives wrecked rows threats etc.


Many years ago I wrote a document about family destruction.

Since that time Satan’s servants have made great advances,

to utterly destroy the family.


Even children of 3 years old are saying that they are in the wrong body.

It is a failure of the parents for such things to happen.

Boys should be taught to be boys, and girls taught to be girls.


Now in the U.K., and it will arrive elsewhere, the government is stepping in,

with an exceedingly heavy hand, to ensure that everyone is treated the very

same, according to government guide lines.

Included in this is what called their ‘sexual orientation’, or religious beliefs.

So called Christian values will not be tolerated.


Children will be questioned without their parents consent or presence.

A vast army of people will be employed to ensure, that Babylon’s will

is carried out.



I am mentioning this, because the failure of marriage starts with the failure

of bringing up children correctly, according to the commands of the Eternal God.

If you fail as a child, you will fail as an adult, whether you are single or married.

Of course we are so modern, that the vast majority do not believe that God exists.

We believe that we are modern, and we know better than the fairy god in the sky,

and we will do exactly as we desire.


This is the reality of the leaders, in almost every country in the world.

They are simply, self centred, egotistical, aethistic spoiled brats,

and in due time, they will suffer accordingly.


This is the precise definition, which results in being completely destroyed,

and at this time, then they will be sent to the very hell,

which they tell us does not exist.

They are going to learn the reality of hell, in due time.


It is for this reason that Christ is going to intervene with a rod of iron,

in order to sort out this horrific mess.

Ignore all those false ministers, who tell us that we are under ‘Grace’,

and ‘Love’, and that we are now free to do anything at all.

This most severe judgment is going to leave everyone stunned

in disbelief.

All you need to do, is just wait and you will most surely see.

You do not have to go and look elsewhere to see this.

It will come right to your own door, regardless of who you are,

or where you are.   


I was greatly blessed to have a mother, who wrote all sorts of sayings

in a deep red exercise book. I think that it still exists, but I do not have it.

As a very young child, around 6 years old, I heard and read this.

"The child is father of the man."

I did not know the author, but now I do.


In the famous poem, The Rainbow, William Wordsworth used the expression,

["The child is father of the man."

This expression means that all our positive and negative traits are established

when we are young. Indeed, if you watch children at play,

you will notice them demonstrate certain characteristics which remain

with them forever.

It is necessary to groom children to adopt healthy attitudes and positive traits

so that they grow up to be balanced individuals.]


Is this not a critical key to being a successful  individual,

and having a happy marriage?


This is what Christ said in Genesis, so it has been the case

from the time that He made the first human beings,

and as He does not change,

it is precisely the very same today.


Man can and does as He pleases, but the Eternal God,

demands that we do what He says, not what others say,

regardless of whom they are.


Genesis 2:24  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,

and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.


Man Interferes and changes the laws of God,

and then implement them into the laws of the country.

This is a great sin, which has serious consequences.


We are clearly told that a man should leave his father and mother.

If this does not happen, any such marriage will fail,


There is nothing complicated about the requirements of marriage.

I know that some of my very young children friends understand this.


It is important to note, that sleeping with someone is not a small matter,

Whether you go through some form of ceremony or not,

the Eternal God will consider you married, that is ‘One Flesh’.

You have created a bond with all these people.


One does not need to be a mathematician to work out,

that in today’s loose lifestyle world, in many marriages,

there are not just two people in a bed, but many.

If you then add the “in laws”, you can see that the problem is indeed very great.


This means, that you will suffer the consequences, of long past relationships,

until these bonds are broken, plus the interfering “in laws”.

This is hardly a recipe for success.


This means that most marriages start out on the worst possible foundation,

and are doomed to failure.


Men, including male ministers always push this verse at their women,

in order to show them who is boss.


Colossians 3:18  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands,

as it is fit in the Lord.


This is one verse that is only partially quoted.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands,

The last part of the verse is conveniently omitted.


In the first verse note the qualification.

as it is fit in the Lord.

This certainly does not mean just do everything that you are told,

or being a ‘servant’. It means be a genuine companion.


Adam and Eve were not told that they were to be competitors,

with each trying to out do the other, playing intellectual mind games.

They were not told to subdue each other.

Rather they were both told to subdue, and to completely control

the creation, and all the environment, in which they had been placed.


Genesis 1:28  And God blessed them, and God said unto them,

Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it:

and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air,

and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.


It is repeated that they were to be companions, helping each other,

and not to be competitors.


If I was on a battlefield fighting a Goliath (a giant), do you think that I would

want my wife by my side, or do you think that I would want her safely a great

distance away looking after the family, and ready to look after me,

after the battle, when I am tired or wounded?


This men and women are equal n every way idea is totally absurd.

We are all made in the image of the Eternal God, but we are complimentary.

Thank the Eternal God that this is the case.


Do you think if I was going down the road, with my wife,

and was confronted by some thugs,

do you think that I would push her in front of me, and say to her,

you are the strong one, deal with them, as I hide behind her?

This is absolute nonsense.

It would never happen.


Some of the following verses clearly explain the role of men and women.


However, there is another side to this discussion, and here it is.

Men first of all have an even greater responsibility as it is clearly stated.


Ephesians 5:25  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church,

and gave himself for it;

This is telling us that husbands should be prepared to give their lives for their wives.


Ephesians 5:28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.

He that loveth his wife loveth himself.


If you do not love your wife, it means that you do not love yourself.

You might think that you love yourself, but in reality you do not,

you actually hate yourself, because if you loved yourself,

you would first of all be obeying the Eternal God, and not be doing things

which actively harm you.


Obedience results in blessings, rather than the curses,

which automatically follow disobedience.


Colossians 3:19  Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.


Husbands, fathers of children, should keep this at the front of their minds.


1 Timothy 5:8  But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those

of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.


I was telling a friend a couple of days ago,

that many argue about the Sabbath day, when it is, and such things,

however, most ignore the first part of the 4th commandment,

Which tells us 6 days you should labour.

If you do not labour 6 days, how are you going to support your family?


I know that work is very hard to get in the present climate,

but work is there if one is prepared to do it,

and have the attitude I do not like the job,

but I have to provide for my family.


It is a common joke where I was born, and I think that it is true everywhere.

If you cannot get a job ‘Start a Church’.

I know people right here in the U.K., who have done precisely that.


Of course it is up to parents to instil into their children the importance of work.


Proverbs 22:6  Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old,

he will not depart from it


I am absolutely fed up with people claiming to be ministers,

as they cherry pick what they like, and disregard the other relevant instructions,

as they plunder and even molest their followers.

Furthermore I know of several ‘ministers’, who have failed in the

bringing up of their own families.

The man subjugates the wife, but cannot control the children.

Here is the real problem for them.


1 Timothy 3:5  (For if a man know not how to rule his own house,

how shall he take care of the church of God?)


We are told that ALL SCRIPTURE, not some selected scriptures,

which we like, is very important.


I have been labouring this point on my website for many, many years.


2 Timothy 3:16  All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and

(1) is profitable for doctrine,

(2) for reproof,

(3) for correction,

(4) for instruction in righteousness:


The bible is not a book for argument and debate.


If you have Christ dwelling in you, as the Holy Spirit,

there will be no argument or debate, even when you do not know

something, which is being explained to you. 

You will greatly appreciate the blessing of being enlightened,

and being removed from deception, as happens to all believers,

again, without exception.


If any one says differently they are simply lying.


If we do not obey precisely what the bible tells us,

it means that we are simply empty vessels making a lot of noise,

and we are as far removed from the Eternal God, as it is possible to be,

regardless of what we say with our mouths,

or what others might think about us.


I know many ‘Yes men’, who continue to do their own thing,

after they have been exposed to the Truth.

They are deceiving themselves.

We are clearly told that the law, and this means all of it,

including that which regulates relationships have not been ‘done away with’,

as is popularly taught.

How can laws which are critical to the proper working of the entire creation,

be eliminated?

The answer is they cannot be.


Romans 2:13  (For not the hearers of the law are just before God,

but the doers of the law shall be justified.


James 1:22  But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only,

deceiving your own selves.


At the end of the day it is Christ, who is going to confront us with all our thoughts,

intentions, words, and deeds, when we individually stand before Him.

There will be no other person to submit mitigating arguments.

There will just be the individual, you, in front of the Eternal God.


All our thoughts, words, intentions, and deeds are written down,

every second of every day in the books, which are opened on judgment day.

All these things are explained in detail on my website.

Holy, righteous angels are writing all these things down. 


There is no escaping from this, for every single human being.

There will be no hiding place for anyone.

This is a public event, not something done in private somewhere.

Note that it says: I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God.  

All humanity, will know precisely what you intended, thought, said, and did. 

Pretty scary don't you think, but absolutely true.


Revelation 20:12  And I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God;

and the books were opened: and another book was opened,

which is the book of life: and the dead were judged out of those things

which were written in the books, according to their works.

This is what Christ said in the New Testament:


I mentioned the original text from the Old Testament,

which defined marriage.

It is also repeated twice in the New Testament.


Matthew 19:5  And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother,

and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?


Mark 10:7  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother,

and cleave to his wife.


The bottom line is very simple indeed.

All that one is left with is a choice.

That is all.

Am I going to obey the Eternal God, or am I going down the road

of rebellion.

Put another way am I going to choose life or death.

We are always commanded to choose life,

but we are not forced to do so.

I repeat it is a choice.


This choice is not for any specific group of people.

It applies to every individual on the earth.

Unfortunately generational and relationship curses,

are affecting many without them knowing it,

but it is a very important factor, which should be carefully considered.


Christ stated a great legal principle,

which was repeated twice.


When you are married, you are now one flesh.


We are then clearly told that no man is to break up that relationship.


Matthew 19:6  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.

What therefore God hath joined together,

let not man put asunder..


Mark 10:9  What therefore God hath joined together,

let not man put asunder.


So the adulterer, who destroys a marriage has a serious problem.

It does not end there.

We are clearly told that ANYONE, who breaks up a marriage for

any reason whatsoever has a serious problem.

It makes no difference who the culprit is.

They will have to give an answer to the Eternal God for their actions.


It is very important to understand, that just as in the body of Christ,

any action, which you take will directly affect the entire body of Christ,

positively or negatively according to your actions.


Similarly all of your actions will automatically affect your partner for good or evil,

according to your deeds, although you might not have considered it all.

By this I mean, that even the health of your partner will be affected.   


There is absolutely no way around this.


Those of you who still have not dealt with generational and relationship curses,

should deal with these things immediately, because these are also affecting

you and your partner.


This topic could easily be made into a full sized book,

however, I think that sufficient principles have been highlighted

to make a profound difference to anyone,

who pays careful attention to what is said.


Some Related Documents:


Avoiding Disastrous Relationbships             Family Destruction        Love v Charity


We Are Called To Be A Vessel Of Honour   The Judgment Books   More On The Judgment Books


Salvation Is A Family Matter    The Importance Of Discipline            ALL Scripture Is For Instruction    


Be One As We Are One                   Control And Manipulation     Control And Manipulation Is Idolatry


Everyone Is Right In His Own Sight          Relationships          Hell And The Lake Of Fire Clarification


Deaths, Judgments, Hell & The Lake Of Fire                                                 Sinners, Hell, And Salvation


New Beginnings And Generational Curses

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